lately this blog has degenerated into pretty pictures, memes and simple talk about live music i have enjoyed. i have been thinking about lots of things i want to blog about but putting together my ideas has seemed like a challenge for some reason. so rather than wait for inspiration and the perfect post that likely will never happen, i am going to dive in to one of the things that has been rolling around in my head.
without getting into a philosophical discussion of relativism or subjectivism, i think it is easy enough to agree we all experience the world in a way unique to our own personality, culture, and other factors too numerous to list. my dad always used to use that old political quote "where you sit is where you stand" and i think this idea is one of those basic truisms of life.
it is endlessly interesting to me that multiple eyewitnesses to crimes frequently report things at odds with basic facts reported by others "seeing" the same set of circumstances unfold. sometimes this disconnect between our own view and that of others adds to the richness of our experience while other times it can be the breeding ground for conflict.
in second life we have the ability to log all of our conversations and our chats. no more wondering, "did he *really* say what i think he said?" or "did i just miss the point completely?" you can go back and read whole conversations to be sure -- yes he did just call me a "tart" because he didn't like what i said in public chat yesterday. (not that anyone has ever used that word to describe me. ok maybe once. but i am happily married in RL and single as all hell in SL so it was a one off. i swear.) ANYWAY
as we all know written words are flat and lack inflection meaning you cant easily detect sarcasm or joy for that matter. voice allows you to hear tone but not everyone loves it like i do and rather than leave people out of the conversation i tend not to use voice much. so for much of our day to day in sl we are limited to text with no tone. imperfect, yes? what we have to work with for now, yes.
in recent weeks i have been having conversations with friends in an effort to resolve some group issues. in the course of these conversations two different people said to me "that is why i invited you to the group." the funny thing is my memory is a third person entirely invited me to the group. i find it most interesting that three intelligent people all remember a basic fact completely differently. we can't all be right and yet our beliefs about how things happened in the past color our perceptions of our reality now. it goes without saying we are seeing our current circumstances very differently from each other as well. i am sure our different perceptions are broadly at the root of the conflict and developing a shared understanding is key to moving forward together.
does second life make issues of perception more difficult because we lack tone and body language? does the ability to log every word and go back to check on the actual facts of a conversation help? hurt? sometimes i can't wait to rush back and check a chat log. other times i refuse to revisit the record, instead preferring to live in my memory of an interaction. i am not sure what my point is here and i certainly have no answers. just more questions.
the other day a friend told me i think too much and i try too hard. i am sure i agree with his perception in both cases.