One year ago today I got an email from Second Life. It said:
"Dear Chestnut Rau,
You have received a Second Life partner proposal from Zha Ewry. Please
visit the link below to view the proposal."
(Yes I saved it. Call me a dork if you like.)
I wasn't surprised by the email -- we had talked about partnering and what it would mean for us both in SL and in RL. We always meant to have a party to celebrate but we never actually got around to doing that. Instead, we have quietly spent our time together building, exploring, enjoying music and art and sharing the day-to-day of our lives. We have had moments of drama but for the most part our partnership is a quiet, consistent friendship.
I think there are lots of partnerships like ours, despite the popular notion that SL partnerships flash and burn quickly. Yes, there are lots of SL weddings and often people don't stay together for a long time. And yes we have all known people who seem to be serially partnered and don't seem to stay with the same person for long. Dramatic love affairs, lavish weddings and disastrous break ups are all too common. But, just like in the real world drama makes headlines. People don't usually have much to say about happy stable relationships.
In any case, Zha and I agree. One year is a good beginning.