"Everything or nothing" is why my "inner circle" is pretty small. I am just not consistent about keeping up with people and I tend to lose track of things. If I don't put the effort in to a friendship, it can easily fade into the category of "I really enjoy and care about that person but I just never seem to keep up with them." Which soon slides into the guilt I feel about not making time to nurture my relationships and then lands with a thud in the "damn, how did I mess that up" pile. Either I put my "everything" into a friendship or I fail at that and "nothing" is what happens. This is not something about which I am proud.
"Everything or nothing" is why I was able to write for New World Notes for two years. Once I made the commitment to take on the deadlines and the tedium of calendar keeping, the idea that I would do anything less than my very best never crossed my mind.
"Everything or nothing" is why I finished my 365 and took on a second year.
I could list about 10 ways "everything or nothing" applies to my RL job, my family, my glass and fiber art, my writing...honestly I could go on and on. Either I am on or I am off, focused and devoted or done and gone.
The inability to be consistent about anything except "everything or nothing" is a big part of me too, my friend.